Not everyone will understand your choices.
And thatβs okay.
As a Careblazer, youβre probably already doing the impossible. Youβre juggling daily care, emotional strain, and major life decisions, all while trying to do whatβs best for your loved one.
And still, someone will have an opinion.
A sibling who thinks you should do it differently.
A friend who wonders why you havenβt placed your loved one in a facility.
A neighbor who offers advice without really understanding what you’re actually going through.
Hereβs the truth:
You will not please everyone.
You cannot please everyone.
And if you try, youβll feel like youβre failing everyone, including yourself.
So instead of asking, βWill people agree with this?β
Try asking:
βDo I like my reason for this choice?β
“Do I agree with this choice?”
Thatβs where your power is.
You donβt need anyone else to fully understand your decisions.
You just need to feel grounded in it.
You need to know that your choice came from thoughtfulness, not guilt or fear.
When you like your reason, other peopleβs opinions can come and go, and youβll still be standing strong.
Youβve probably heard of lithium in the context of batteries or mental health treatment β but what about brain health and dementia?
Researchers at Harvard are now exploring how low-dose lithium might help protect the brain. Not cure it, not reverse it, but possibly help it function better for longer.
In early studies, lithium has been shown to:
Thatβs a big deal.
But hereβs the most important part: this isnβt about grabbing supplements or making changes on your own. This is about understanding what science is discovering so you can be an informed advocate when talking with doctors or making care decisions.
In this weekβs video, I break down the study, what it could mean for caregivers, and what to be cautious about.
Because staying informed is part of how you protect your loved one β and yourself.
During support group this week, we talked about how hard it can be to keep someone clean when showers arenβt possible. One member shared a tool that made a big difference. It helped her loved one roll from side to side while still lying in bed.
Itβs not fancy. But it’s super practical.
I found a similar one for $30 with over 4,000 caregiver reviews and a 4.6/5βοΈ rating.
If your loved one has trouble moving and you’re looking for a simpler way to clean, change, or reposition them β this might be worth checking out.
Β Β Β Β Sending love,
Β Β Β Board-certified Geropsychologist
Β Β Β Founder, Dementia Careblazers
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