
Last year, my dad died two days before Thanksgiving. And as this week approached, I felt grief rising right alongside the pressure to “be grateful.”
Holidays have a way of bringing all of that to the surface.
Maybe you know that feeling too.
What surprised me, even in the middle of that heaviness, were the small moments of joy that still showed up. Not the big, bright kind I used to look for. But quiet ones. Gentle ones. The kind you almost miss if you’re not paying attention.
A warm cup of coffee.
A memory that hurts and comforts at the same time.
A message from someone who understands.
A reminder that connection can exist even in the hardest seasons.
And honestly? This Careblazer community has been one of those joys for me.
So if this week feels heavy for you, or complicated, or nothing like the Thanksgivings you used to know, please remember this:
You don’t have to force joy.
You don’t have to feel grateful in a big, performative way.
You get to let the small good things count.
And if all you notice is one tiny moment, one breath, one memory, one connection, that is enough. It all still matters.
I’m grateful for you.
Truly.
If your loved one seems to take a long time to answer questions, it can feel confusing or even frustrating. But there’s a real neurological reason behind it. Dementia changes how quickly the brain can process information, link thoughts, and find the right words.
In this week’s video, I walk you through what’s actually happening in the brain, why their pauses are longer than before, and how a few small shifts in how you communicate can make conversations calmer and easier for both of you.
Sending love,

Board-certified Geropsychologist
Founder, Dementia Careblazers
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