Careblazer,
This week inside our Care Collective program, several of our members had questions about whether or not to move their loved one to a care facility. They weren’t sure if it was needed and wanted some guidance on how to know the time is right.
Of course we talked about whether or not the person has increasing needs that the Careblazer isn’t able to realistically manage on their own.
We talked about safety concerns that might be better addressed in a facility.
We even talked about how considering the Careblazer’s life – their health, their wellbeing, and other priorities (like raising kids) could play a role in the decision.
But the biggest message of all that I shared is…
You don’t have to need something in order to do something.
This isn’t a message promoting moving your loved one to a care facility.
It’s a message to give yourself permission to make hard decisions based on what could help you and your loved one, not just on what you think your loved one needs.
And as a reminder, many great caregiving decisions don’t feel great.
Sending love to everyone going through tough times.
Q: This week’s question comes from Liz, who asks:
“My mom with Alzheimer’s calls me several times a day. She doesn’t remember that she’s already called me and there is nothing new for her to tell me. So we repeat the same conversation over and over. Do I continue to answer the phone each time she calls even though she won’t even remember?”
A: I get it, talking on the phone to someone who says the same thing over and over again can be frustrating.
And you certainly don’t have to answer the phone every single time. But here are some things to keep in mind…
What I Wish More People Understood About Dementia Caregiving
Recently, I did a 30 day mini video series called “What I Wish More People Understood About Dementia.” I’ve compiled all those videos into a booklet for you that you can download for free below.
A recent study in the journal of Nature Medicine has found that 42% of Americans will develop dementia. Is sounds terrifying…and it is.
But there’s also hope.
Click the video below to learn more about what you can do so that you don’t become part of that statistic.
🧰 Careblazer Favorites: A Walker to Make Their Own
During support rooms yesterday, the topic of walkers came up. It was fun to listen to all the ways Careblazers have personalized the walkers for their loved ones to help make it feel more like a fun new accessory rather than a medical necessity. One Careblazer even shared that she named the walker, “Wally” and now others in the group are brainstorming fun names.
One of our Careblazers shared the walker below as the best one he’s found for his mom. But before you order a walker online, check with your loved one’s healthcare provider (especially a physical or occupational therapist) about the best type of device for your loved one. And also check with your insurance as some might even cover the cost or supply one for you!
Sending love,
Curious what I’ve been up to this week? Click HERE to take a peek.
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